Maybe we should just make him read these ridiculous threads. That would be punishment enough I am sure.
Seriously, what consequences have you paid for every stupid and offensive comment you've made throughout your life? When did any of us pay $100K+ for a stupid and offensive comment? Can we enter the realm of reality here?
I miss the days of "sticks and stones." I think we used to be stronger than we are now. In general, we become way too offended way too easily.
This is absolutely not to say that comments and actions that are racist in nature are acceptable and that this incedent should get a pass but yes we become offended way too easily. It seems like there is a big group of people out there just looking to jump on every opportunity to act like victims and to slam those they percieve as not treating them as something special.
These same groups tend to think they have every right to be critical of others thoughts and beliefs but the slightest thing against them and they scream like little school girls (uh oh, now I'm going to have the defenders of little girls all over my case) until they get some attention and satisfaction.
Don't get me wrong about accepting discriminatory behavior. Over the years I have had to deal with the process of having students suspended from school because they used terms for Blacks, Hispanics, and Jewish people in a pejoritive or inflamatory manner. I had one student who we took all the way to expulsion for innapropriate comments and touching of girls.
It is easy to get all wired up about certain words and even actions and just as easy to say throw the book at the offenders but when you start asking the tough questions then it gets a lot harder. Questions like what was the context? What response is appropriate and in line with the offense? Will the response change the behaviors and attitudes of the offender and/or others in the future.
There is a big difference between punishment and discipline. Punishment is something to make someone suffer for actions that have already occurred, discipline is something that is intended to change future behaviors for the better. Punishment is certainly appropriate in certain situations. When a person takes anothers life or violates a persons most private places, when a person damages anothers sense of safety and security then punishment makes sense if for no other reason than as a deterent.
In a case like this one I have to question the value of extracting revenge on someone who is young and while certainly wrong in his actions likely didn't do any lasting damage to anyone. This is a situation for appropriate discipline, not over the top punishment. I fail to see how this incident justifies changing a kids entire future.
Now if M2 determines that there is a basic character flaw in the kid that makes change unlikely or if he continues to exhibit the same kind of poor judgement in a manner that is offensive to others then certainly the consequences get bigger but the idea of giving a high school kid a life changing consequence for acting like many high schools kids act doesn't make a lot of sense.
Sometimes things are only a big deal because we choose to make them a big deal, this strikes me as that. Wrong yes, deserving of some kind of response yes, but hammer the kid, no. But I guess that those who are calling for him to get beat up over this have never, and I mean never, said or done something that could be or was offensive to somebody else.