This quote touches upon one of the most fundamental dynamics in our culture, society. As long as I have been in Longmont, the more affluent in our town have sent their kids to St. John's, a private, Catholic grade school. Many of those families were not remotely Catholic. There was a perception that the small, religious school would instill the values and discipline the parents wanted for their kids. This is an admirable quest. The problem for this parochial school graduate is that the values and discipline so desired really don't come from the school, at least the majority. These things COME FROM THE HOME, THE PARENTS. And you know what? The fact that people send their kids to Valor, or St. John's or wherever... this is a way for people to pass on the work and the community as you say in your quote to the other so the parents are free to do....whatever. I have seen this dynamic for years. My wife, a recently retired teacher will verify, as will many other teachers. And for that matter, folks that are solid parents that regard their main role to raise their children, not the schools, the coaches or the teachers.